You have no power over your mother's choices, and her choices of not living her own life hurt you. You can't take the house, the car, the bank account with you when you give up the ghost. You're a real trooper. I would put on the whole armor of GOD There are two main reasons not to take the enema route. He will not get help, Because he sees he needs none.
While anal beads or butt plugs work well for a first anal toy, Van Kirk suggested something that vibrates. After 17 years, "D-day" happened without me having an inkling it was coming. I tried everything I could to make things work. I expresssed what continued action I would take to never put all of us in that inconsistant eviroment again. Be true to yourself. When you set boundries firmly in place, I think that you were suprised by how much it opened my eyes.